I am Mom.

My daughter’s kindergarten class is currently studying communities and the people in them. So parents are coming in to share about the role they play. I’m headed in there today to talk about Mom-ing. And while every five year old loves their Mama, I think they consider us quite ordinary.

This is the act I have to follow…

On Monday, the firemen came in and talked about saving lives. They brought the firetruck and other SWAG.

On Tuesday, an architect shared about the buildings she designs. She brought each kid a sketchbook.

On Wednesday, the surgeon talked about taking care of people. She handed out masks, hats and latex gloves.

On Thursday, my husband went in and talked about making shoes. He handed out sparkling rainbow shoelaces.

Today it’s my turn. I’m going to show up and be like, “I am Mom.”

And all the kids will be all, “Yeah. So? I got one too.”

As I prepare for my visit, I find myself wishing I could go in and discuss my role as Entrepreneur or Designer or Author or Artist. Anything with a title, really. A mysterious career to shed light on. Something that will blow their little five year old minds away. Maybe I could just talk about what a Sustainability Consultant does? Sure, I haven’t done that in five years, but they don’t need to know that. Or what about (Amateur) Writer? We’d have lots to discuss.

But, Mrs. Kindergarten asked me to talk about Mom-ing, so that’s what I’m going to do.

The fact that I’m worried about a class of five year olds being unimpressed by my role as Mom is concerning. I mean, being a mom is without a doubt the most important/significant/lasting/influential thing I have ever done. EVER. So, why am I wishing I could talk about something else. What the eff? (A topic for another day. I think it has something to do with our cultural obsession with quantifying value with dollars. And then my willingness to buy into that bullshit more than I’d like to admit.)

Reality check. Motherhood! I get to go in and talk to these kids about the badassery of Motherhood! And they have to sit on a carpet and listen to what I say. This is my chance to paint a new picture, to reveal some secrets.  Because they know what the daily mom grind includes – soccer practice and sandwich making – I am going to spend my fifteen minutes talking about the less evident work we do. The real work.

Mama’s are the gateways to life. The keepers of talent. The gardeners of love. Sure, we buy toilet paper and tie shoe laces, but above all we tend to the human heart. We know our children. We see them fully. We see things in them that they can’t even see in themselves. Our perspective is wrought with hope and optimism, establishing us forever in their corner. With us alongside them, they are free to charge ahead.

We are the gardeners of human potential. We plant, water and trim. We listen, encourage and hug. We identify talents, encourage dreams and call out unique gifts. And we do so with 100% confidence that our little people will blossom. They’ll blossom into architects, teachers, surgeons, artists, business people, firemen. Even parents.

They will blossom and change the world. Because of them – their gifts, talents and love – humanity will progress. Because of them, our global understanding will deepen. Because of them, the world will be a more empathetic, united and loving place. Because of them, the future is bright.

(And as for the SWAG, I’ll either bring each of them a blooming flower or a role of toilet paper. I still haven’t decided.)

To all of Moms out there, you are magic. The future would be lost without you. Enjoy gardening the hearts of your little people today!

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    Jana Lee
    02/02/2018 at 8:13 am

    Love this post and you’re the perfect guest to wrap the deal🌟

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    02/02/2018 at 9:20 am

    I needed this today. And my guess is the kids are going to need this today too. Thank you for your wisdom and perspective: because of Mama’s like you, the future is bright!

    Any chance you want to stop by my kiddo’s classroom too? 😉

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      02/05/2018 at 2:12 pm

      Gosh, thanks Steph! Now, when can we catch up? Hoping we can be soccer moms together again this Spring! xo

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    02/02/2018 at 12:08 pm

    Reece’s Kindgergarten sounds awesome! I love that Isaac was in there yesterday handing out sparkly shoelaces. Also think it’s pretty cool that out of all the moms in the class, the teacher asked YOU to come represent for moms. Looking forward to hearing more about your presentation.

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      02/05/2018 at 2:10 pm

      Thanks Sister! I think the fact that I have a live infant as prop made me a good candidate. It was really fun and I love all of the windows into careers/role Vera has learned in this unit.

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    02/05/2018 at 8:36 am

    I found your blog from Seasons & Salt, who has a link to this post, and I want to second exactly what Andrea says about how important this is and how, hopefully, it will help a few littles ones feel less conflicted about their role as mothers in the future. And I’d like to acknowledge that this could extend to fathers a well. Certainly not all of them. As I’m sure it doesn’t apply to all Mom’s… but if you think of the confusion and trepidation and concern women have today over being a Mom — imagine the emotions of a man trying to forge his path as primarily Dad.

    I absolutely don’t mean to be critical. I think that what you shared is important and wonderful and I give you all the kudos!

    Its just in my heart that when we’re thinking about speaking to the concerns and emotions of the next generation — just as you mentioned that the surgeon was a she (yay!) — I think we need to provide just as many opportunities for little boys to see role models that put being a Dad first too, or at least not hear them excluded from a career by nature of the word (Mom).

    In other words, this isn’t just a ‘Mom thing’, it is a a ‘wonderful, caring, supportive primary parent thing’.

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    02/05/2018 at 2:09 pm

    Hi Rebecca,

    I’m so glad Andrea sent you my way. I love reading her articles.

    You bring up such a good point. It’s not just a mom thing, rather it’s a parent thing. And I think those labels matter in terms of advancing our cultural lens regarding gender roles. It’s certainly a conversation we have in my house with my kids… I find that there are so many assumptions my husband and I have about roles from our own upbringing. Talking things through with the kids has exposed some of those in a very helpful way.

    I really appreciate your response. We need each other to help us see beyond. So, thank you.

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